My son and other son did not talk for a year after one accused the other of ruining their chances of getting a job. No one admitted fault. Now they do things and share things but with boundaries. The family has this pain of the past that is still and will always be there, but we function and work together. Maybe we are not as close as preferred by some, but everyone works and tries their best. Family is more important than getting the situation right. Everyone was sad and hurt by this.